Beloofs about Meh…

I was sitting with a client the other day, and she was describing how her week was going. She had recently started a new and prestigious  job with a big name Fortune 500 company, was continuing in a  close relationship with a long-term partner, was forming a new and more realistic relationship with the members of her family of origin, was financially stable; all seeming to be good news.
In classic therapist fashion, I asked a critical question: “How are you feeling?”
She looked down at the floor and after a long pause said, “Meh.”

For those of you who know me well, I am a word and definition freak. As a hypnotherapist, I’ve learned well that words and how we define them hold the key to our experience of life. So, of course, I had to go to he dictionary right there during our session together.

meh

informal
exclamation
1. expressing a lack of interest or enthusiasm
“Meh. I’m not impressed so far”
adjective
2. uninspiring; unexceptional.
“a lot of his movies are…meh”

I asked her to tell me more.
She said, “I feel like I just don’t care anymore.”
The therapist in me had to ask, “Are you depressed?”
She said, “No, I just don’t care as much. I’m happy just to be doing the normal things in life, and doing my art.”

And then I asked, “Might you simply be more relaxed?”

Long pause…and then she said, “All I know is that it doesn’t feel ‘right’; like something is wrong.”

This person carries a great deal of intensity into her life. She likes to go 100 miles per hour, and lives on adrenaline. She possesses an Ego with a capital E; craving achievement and recognition. She was raised that way and it is deeply imbedded in her subconscious beloof system.

Here is the beloof system many of us carry from our early conditioning:

  • My value is in what I do and not who I am
  • My self-esteem is based on my achievements and acquisitions
  • My feelings and emotions are secondary in life
  • How things feel is unimportant
  • When I express my feelings and needs, I am showing weakness
  • I always must be on alert for danger

So I said to her, “Perhaps you are approaching life in a more relaxed fashion, and it seems like you just don’t care as much as you used to.  It could be you are learning new ways to create safety; real safety in your life. Maybe, just maybe, you are learning to love yourself just the way you are at any given moment. ”

She looked at me with even more puzzlement in her eyes. What I was proposing wasn’t quite computing yet. She was in-between where she had come from, and where she is going.

I know that place well…I have spent many days observing where I have been, where I am, and where I am going. Fortunately, I spent enough time in those places and collected enough life tools and experiences to know that I am safe, and the universe is supplying me with everything I need and more during my change times.

I said to her, “Be patient with yourself as you travel. Everything you need is already inside of you, and you are not alone. You are safe when you stay connected to source energy.”

She looked perhaps even more puzzled…but I saw that she let my words go in anyway.

Here is the mantra to help you on your journey from here to there:

“The universe is the source of everything I need in my lifelong travels from here to there. I am safe in the arms of my creator.”

“The universe is the source of everything I need in my lifelong travels from here to there. I am safe in the arms of my creator.”

“The universe is the source of everything I need in my lifelong travels from here to there. I am safe in the arms of my creator.”

Aho! I love you…